Homeschooling? Ummmmm…..no it’s not for me. I am not an educator, I am quite busy, kids are supposed to be at school and I lack patience. Yes, these were honestly my thoughts. Well, at least until about 3 weeks ago.
I started considering homeschooling my 3rd grader because of a few issues I had with his teachers, administration, his behavior and performance. Let me give you a little background on my little man: as a toddler I started to learn of severe behavior issues at school. The daycare would call me just about every single day because of something he was doing. Hitting teachers, running away, tearing up work that he did not want to do. Craziness, right?!?!? It was odd because he would not exhibit these behaviors at home. It was pretty bad for YEARS! I was a single mom trying to be the best mom I could, but I was in tears and stressed out every . single . day.
I disciplined him, was always picking him up from the school/daycare midday, it was a nightmare.My family, my ex husband, teachers….everyone pointed the finger at me! I was a bad mom, blah, blah, blah. I had him tested, screened, poked and probed and NOTHING. Psychologists said his IQ was off the charts, he was a sweet boy, there weren’t any issues, he was fine. This went on until 1st grade. My son had an amazing teacher that worked well with him. Second grade same thing; great kid. This year in third grade around Thanksgiving time I had that same child from the toddler years return. Acting out at school once again.
It did not make sense. I know my son has very little self control and a very short fuse. But, what was making this fuse suddenly fire again? After about 2 months of him repeatedly being suspended I started to consider homeschooling. Mostly because he was home a lot anyway and not learning at school. What was really the point of going, right? At least at home I could ensure he was learning. My son’s teacher learned that he may possibly be withdrawing and cheered. Yep, she cheered. My son witnessed her cheer and came home hurt and in tears. At that moment (after I envisioned the perfect fantasy of poking her in her eyes) I decided that he needed to be out. No more considering it as a viable option. It then became the only option. I could not send him to face her again. Nor could I imagine trusting my son with her! It was awful. I am sure when he is 40 he will still remember that day!
I decided to not only withdraw my 3rd grader, but to also withdraw my 5th grader from the same school. I had a very displeasing taste for the entire school at this point. LOL. The day I withdrew them I sat in my car in the parking lot of the school and cried. I have businesses to run, I have meetings to attend, I have stuff to do! How was I going to do this? But here’s the thing…I had to do this. Why? Because as mothers we do what we have to do for our kids. No matter what we make it work.
My kids are more important than a meeting, than hosting a radio show (yep, I walked away from Business Radio X), more important than anything. I have made it work and see such progress. I see so much progress especially in my 3rd grader. He is like a totally different child! In a few short weeks I have helped him catch up on some fundamentals that he missed this year.
I can’t work outside of the house as much and can’t travel like I did, but here is what I learned throughout this ordeal: as entrepreneurs our goal should be to work smarter and not harder. I was working HARD 4 weeks ago before homeschooling caused me to slow down. However slowing down should not mean that the income has to slow down! On my website I have placed more virtual products and programs for sale, I have launched a book that’s for sale, I have a branding home study kit for sale and more. I have actually made more money this month than last month when I was working HARDER.
As moms we need flexibility. We need to have the option to pull our kids from a school if we feel the education system is not working for them. We need to be able to decide that we are going to take our kids on a trip, but still be able to work from our cell and computer. We deserve to be mobile moguls!
Whether you are a mommy, an aunt, a Godmother or a mom to fur babies, I urge you to take control of your life and stop working so hard. The internet is your friend. Putting your products and services for sale on the internet can be your first step in becoming a mobile mommy mogul!
What steps can you take to work smarter and not harder? Comment below!
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